I'm still alive. I know I've not been as chatty as usual, but that offline world has sucked me in lately with a new job, new responsibilities, projects to plan and lots to learn. It's all good though, so it's ok.. just means that lately I've had less time to speak to all of you. I still love you though, I promise.
To show how much I love you, I'm going to tell all of you girls a secret. You boys can know this too.. it won't help you directly but it's good to know in case you want to tell your girlfriends, wives, or whatever else you've got goin' on.
I'm not sure who first told me about this magnificent line of sex toys. It might have been Violet Blue or aag.. I can't remember and I love them both so it doesn't really matter. The beautiful secret is a company called Lelo and my latest favorite thing in the world is this.
If you're a loyal reader you'll remember that I blogged a while ago about my first true ejaculatory experience. Since then it's really been a love/hate kind of deal for me. More often than not.. it was hate. I could NOT get that to happen again no matter how hard I tried. Same technique, same position.. no go. I was feeling a little more than frustrated to be honest with you but I decided that if it happened then, surely it would happen again at some point in the future so I relaxed a bit.
Since I recently broke my favorite vibe (don't ask).. I decided it was time to purchase some new ones. I got the Gigi, and this. Since today is a vacation day for me, with snow falling outside and nowhere to go for most of the day, I decided to give these new toys a whirl. After soaking a towel AND the foot of the bed, I am happy to say that my ability to squeal and squirt at the same time has triumphantly returned and all is well with the world!!
I highly recommend these products and I want to thank either Violet or aag for talking about this line of toys. You're both fantastic.
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Friday, February 22, 2008
Thursday, December 6, 2007
Pony Play in SL
One of my favorite sex bloggers, Violet Blue, posted a link today about an article from the Second Life Herald discussing 'pony play' in Second Life. I've done a previous blog post about a ponygirl that I'd talked to and her viewpoints about what she enjoys and why.
What I found most interesting in this article were really the comments. There are times that I really think some people were put on this earth to criticize or judge other people and I just don't get that. There are plenty of things in this world that I just don't "get", but I really make every effort to not judge someone else for liking something that I don't understand. Who am I to think that I know everything there is to know about every fetish in the world? I'd be pretty damned arrogant to think so, or to think that I was in any position to made judgements about the people that are involved in those things.
As a fairly successful woman, I can completely understand why some women enjoy roleplaying these sorts of 'characters'. More and more women are in real-life roles requiring that they make important decisions, multi-task, and take care of any number of responsibilities during the course of any day. If a virtual world gives these women the opportunity to forget about all of those things, let someone else be in control for a while, and let go of everything they have to think about, then I have no trouble seeing how that might be very appealing to some people.
So here's the thing... can we please stop judging everyone for being into something that we don't 'get' or that we might think is wrong. We do *not* know everything (as much as we'd all like to think we do) and we cannot possibly understand how someone else feels or what someone else might need or desire in their life. Second Life is not the only place that these things are taking place, it's happening quite often in real-life too, but we're not in a position to pull up an interface in RL and type 'pony play' in a search field to see what our options might be.
Maybe if we could we'd all be a little bit more tolerant.
-xopixox
What I found most interesting in this article were really the comments. There are times that I really think some people were put on this earth to criticize or judge other people and I just don't get that. There are plenty of things in this world that I just don't "get", but I really make every effort to not judge someone else for liking something that I don't understand. Who am I to think that I know everything there is to know about every fetish in the world? I'd be pretty damned arrogant to think so, or to think that I was in any position to made judgements about the people that are involved in those things.
As a fairly successful woman, I can completely understand why some women enjoy roleplaying these sorts of 'characters'. More and more women are in real-life roles requiring that they make important decisions, multi-task, and take care of any number of responsibilities during the course of any day. If a virtual world gives these women the opportunity to forget about all of those things, let someone else be in control for a while, and let go of everything they have to think about, then I have no trouble seeing how that might be very appealing to some people.
So here's the thing... can we please stop judging everyone for being into something that we don't 'get' or that we might think is wrong. We do *not* know everything (as much as we'd all like to think we do) and we cannot possibly understand how someone else feels or what someone else might need or desire in their life. Second Life is not the only place that these things are taking place, it's happening quite often in real-life too, but we're not in a position to pull up an interface in RL and type 'pony play' in a search field to see what our options might be.
Maybe if we could we'd all be a little bit more tolerant.
-xopixox
Friday, September 7, 2007
real dolls vs. avatars
Recently one of my fav bloggers, Violet Blue, blogged about 'real dolls' and I've been hearing a lot about these lovely ladies recently in other arenas. If you're not familiar with real dolls, they're amazingly lifelike silicone sex dolls. Violet blogged that MGM is making a movie about relationships with sex dolls, but what I found most interesting was another post I'd read about an artist using sex dolls in her work.
Because I'm also an artist dealing with sexuality and sexual relationships, I found what Amber Hank Swanson is doing of particular interest. Quoting from an article in the Chicago Reader, "...Swanson began talking to more women and by 2005 she herself was in front of the camera. “Feminism?” consists of ten shorts in which she quotes from interview transcripts while participating in her own objectification. One short, Not a Feminist Way of Thinking: Daddy’s Little Girl, recreates a scene from Lolita; in it Swanson’s real-life father paints her toenails. Two others, That’s Deep and That’s Deep Again, show Swanson being penetrated from behind—in one video by a man, in the other by a woman—while repeating “That’s deep,” one woman’s answer to her final question. “I was interested in the cultural phenomenon of young women rejecting feminism,” Swanson says. “In some ways I took on the character of a young woman doing so—either rejecting feminism or being naive about it.” ". Swanson's latest project, "... has put Amber Doll to use in a project exploring the interplay between fantasy and reality in sexual relationships. The finished work, which is still untitled, will contrast stills of intimate “partnership” scenes with video reenactments of rape scenes from movies such as Irreversible and The Accused. Unlike “Feminism?” which spoofed sexualized depictions of women in popular culture, Swanson’s latest videos are meant to mimic them as closely as possible—with one main departure. In the rape scene reenactments, both Swanson and Amber Doll will be dressed as the victim in the film. She gets most of her costumes from Forever 21 and H&M, including dresses similar to the one worn by Monica Bellucci in Irreversible. “These places had the majority of the ‘asking for it’ outfits I was looking for,” she explains."
So then I started wondering just how much our avatars in Second Life really function as a 'real doll'. Whether you're into the BDSM scene, or allowing someone to humiliate you, or rape you, or 'use' you in a roleplaying scenario.. how much of that is actually *you* allowing it, or are you in essence doing exactly what Amber has done in her work? Are you using your avatar, as a second 'you' in a sense and allowing him or her to experience those things while giving yourself some 'distance' from the scene, or do you feel a connection to your avatar that negates that distance? Are you able to have these sexual experiences that involve humiliation and torture without logging off with some residual esteem issues?
I think we're all participating and observing in online sex for our own reasons and I think those reasons vary greatly from person to person, but it really is interesting to take a step back once in a while and think about why we do, act, or roleplay certain scenarios and what that means to our 'physical' selves.
Because I'm also an artist dealing with sexuality and sexual relationships, I found what Amber Hank Swanson is doing of particular interest. Quoting from an article in the Chicago Reader, "...Swanson began talking to more women and by 2005 she herself was in front of the camera. “Feminism?” consists of ten shorts in which she quotes from interview transcripts while participating in her own objectification. One short, Not a Feminist Way of Thinking: Daddy’s Little Girl, recreates a scene from Lolita; in it Swanson’s real-life father paints her toenails. Two others, That’s Deep and That’s Deep Again, show Swanson being penetrated from behind—in one video by a man, in the other by a woman—while repeating “That’s deep,” one woman’s answer to her final question. “I was interested in the cultural phenomenon of young women rejecting feminism,” Swanson says. “In some ways I took on the character of a young woman doing so—either rejecting feminism or being naive about it.” ". Swanson's latest project, "... has put Amber Doll to use in a project exploring the interplay between fantasy and reality in sexual relationships. The finished work, which is still untitled, will contrast stills of intimate “partnership” scenes with video reenactments of rape scenes from movies such as Irreversible and The Accused. Unlike “Feminism?” which spoofed sexualized depictions of women in popular culture, Swanson’s latest videos are meant to mimic them as closely as possible—with one main departure. In the rape scene reenactments, both Swanson and Amber Doll will be dressed as the victim in the film. She gets most of her costumes from Forever 21 and H&M, including dresses similar to the one worn by Monica Bellucci in Irreversible. “These places had the majority of the ‘asking for it’ outfits I was looking for,” she explains."
So then I started wondering just how much our avatars in Second Life really function as a 'real doll'. Whether you're into the BDSM scene, or allowing someone to humiliate you, or rape you, or 'use' you in a roleplaying scenario.. how much of that is actually *you* allowing it, or are you in essence doing exactly what Amber has done in her work? Are you using your avatar, as a second 'you' in a sense and allowing him or her to experience those things while giving yourself some 'distance' from the scene, or do you feel a connection to your avatar that negates that distance? Are you able to have these sexual experiences that involve humiliation and torture without logging off with some residual esteem issues?
I think we're all participating and observing in online sex for our own reasons and I think those reasons vary greatly from person to person, but it really is interesting to take a step back once in a while and think about why we do, act, or roleplay certain scenarios and what that means to our 'physical' selves.
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