A "Sexstination" Conversation

I started out tonight with plans of exploring another sex-related spot in Second Life so that I could bring back all the necessary details to allow my readers to make an informed decision, but as we all know - sometimes plans change.

I actually did teleport to one spot but I was so disappointed in it I refused to blog about it. Yes, it was that bad.

After that, I decided to try once more and teleported to the "Cumslut Cafe", and that's where today's discussion begins.

I've been to several sex-related spots and I've had more than one discussion about sexuality and sex in a virtual environment, but I was not at all prepared for what I was about to encounter in the Red Light District at the Cumslut Cafe. I'll save the review of the Cafe for another time, but suffice it to say that it was definitely an interesting thing. The most interesting thing, however, is that I only saw ONE person actually IN the Cumslut Cafe and she was camping on a sex toy trying to earn lindens. I considered it just for the sheer enjoyment, but there was a sign saying you had to be naked if you were 'on stage' and I'd just gotten dressed, so screw that.

When you teleport to the Cafe, you'll land in a courtyard area outside the cafe itself. This area is where everyone congregates, and it was crowded when I was there. I was a little disoriented, because there are people everywhere, but no one speaks. Took me just a minute to realize that 90% of the people in this courtyard define themselves as escorts or prostitutes and are just there hoping to be hired by someone.

Now I've seen escorts before, in clubs and other sex spots, but never like this. It was an eerie sort of quiet there, so of course I broke the ice by asking who liked peanut butter. Seemed as good a question as any in this spot.

Once people started talking, I was able to ask some more relevant questions about how things worked there. I have to say, that I was amazed. Lots of girls there, each with their own 'look', their own rates, their own 'thing' going on, but no cattiness, no fighting, no one trying to 'beat out' anyone else. Just standing there, with no one saying a word, you could feel that there was respect - which might seem a bit silly to say in a spot like that, but it's true. Everyone was there respecting what everyone else did, no one judging anyone, no one putting anyone down. It was good.

I was able to chat with a few folks including one fantastically wonderful escort that has agreed to let me interview her in the near future about her experiences. I'm really looking forward to speaking with her and getting her viewpoints and her story.

I think that not only in Second Life, but in online communities in general, it's fascinating to think that every single person you see has a unique and interesting story to tell. All there for different reasons, but I bet there are a lot more similarities that we might think initially. I can't wait to continue this conversation with my new friend, but until then.. if you visit the Cumslut Cafe, go ahead and strike up a conversation, there are some great people there.

-xopixox